The death of a loved one is an experience most of us will face in our lifetime, and the grief we experience and how we navigate it can be as unique as we are. Our beliefs, culture, religion, values, and our specific relationship to the person who died influences how we are affected.
While loss is a common experience, we don’t always know how to navigate our grief. We tend to learn about death, dying, and grief from our families. For instance, if a death occurred, we may have looked to adults to learn what it meant and how to get through it. Some responses may have been useful – helping us well into adulthood. Sometimes, we didn’t learn anything at all and find that as adults, perhaps with families of our own, that we don’t have any idea about how to help ourselves grieve while supporting our families in their grief.
How we talk about death and grief in our families, if we talk about it at all, depends on our own past experiences with loss and the ages of our family members. According to Dr. Alan Wolfelt, Director of The Center for Loss and Life Transition, “any child old enough to love is old enough to mourn, but their mourning often looks different than ours.” When it comes to coping with the death of a loved one, children and teens grieve differently than adults. They tend to experience grief through the lens of their developmental stage. How we talk to our children about death and loss really involves examining our own feelings and beliefs, so that we can talk to them as naturally as possible.
How do we support grieving children?
Children are aware of loss - they learn from stories, movies, media, etc. – and they mourn. They observe how we react to death, grief, and loss. Younger children may not express grief in the same way as adults, but they are affected and mourn after a death. Young children need support, patience, and understanding.
Tips to help children with their grief and loss.
If you and your family are grieving the loss of a loved one, help is available.
Camp Beacon is a two-day camp for children and teens dealing with the loss of a loved one. Trained professionals and volunteers help children and their families explore issues related to grief, walking beside them as they take the steps needed to heal.
The camp is for children from kindergarten through teens and young adults who have experienced the death of a close family member or loved one in the past two years. Parents, grandparents and caregivers are also encouraged to participate in their own adult group.
Dates and locations
Hampton Roads - Southside
Future date to be announced
757-553-3330Hampton Roads - Peninsula
Future date to be announced
Harrisonburg/Rockingham
Future date to be announced
540-564-5757
Contact us
- Email: campbeacon@sentara.com
- Hampton Roads - Southside: 757-553-3330
- Hampton Roads - Peninsula: 757-736-0709
- Harrisonburg: 540-564-5757
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Frequently asked questions
The camp's name comes from a real-life story of a former hospice patient by the name of Cheryl, who had a 14-year-old daughter. For numerous years, she had saved many of her daughter's clothes and planned to make a quilt to give her daughter on her wedding day. Cancer got in the way.
As Cheryl was dying, a Â鶹ÊÓƵ hospice nurse listened to her talk about her dream and offered to work with volunteers in making the quilt a reality. They immediately said yes and started their work on what would be a special gift. She was able to use the last energy of her life designing the quilt for her beloved daughter. Cheryl died knowing volunteers would finish the work she had started. The design Cheryl had picked out for her quilt was of a huge Beacon.
As a result of their work with thousands of families, the Â鶹ÊÓƵ hospice staff developed Camp Beacon to help children dealing with their grief. Camp Beacon is dedicated to people like Cheryl and her daughter.
A camp like this requires caring people like you who are willing to provide funding. Your financial support will help with the cost of a camper's stay, including meals, art supplies and additional training for volunteers. Your help in making this camp a success will sustain the program for years to come.
For the Hampton Roads area, please (on dropdown list of funds, choose "Hospice" then "Camp Beacon") or make check payable to The Â鶹ÊÓƵ Foundation - Hampton Roads (write "Camp Beacon" in the memo line), and send to:
Â鶹ÊÓƵ Foundation
1300 Â鶹ÊÓƵ Park, 1st Floor
Virginia Beach, VA 23464
For the Harrisonburg area, please make checks payable to The RMH Foundation (write "for Camp Beacon" in the memo line), and send to:
The RMH Foundation
2010 Health Campus Drive
Harrisonburg, VA 22801
Visa and MasterCard are also accepted.